One step at a time

The whole idea was so outrageous that it was amusing me. I couldn’t even imagine how I could make it happen without miracles. I just thought, "Aha, how interesting." Then I added playfully, "Well, if it is meant to be, show me the way. I promise to follow, I have made my commitments to make this world happier place."

About three years ago I got an idea of the story I would need to write and publish some day. It was not a blog but a full book. The story should be written in English and first published in USA. It was quite challenging idea for a Finnish girl who had only published couple of blogs in Finnish. It was pretty wild idea for a girl who had just started to create her own journey and had consciously stopped adrift in her life. I knew I was not ready for it yet, so I left it to brew and forgot the whole thing.

During that time life had basically forced me to start doing the changes I had secretly dreamt about for years and stubbornly resisted. I didn’t have detailed plan of what exactly I was desiring to achieve but I trusted I would find it along the way. And no, it was not as easy as it sounds: I was about to change my whole life, give up of the external identity I had created along the years and dig out the authentic me and be happier than ever. It was not going to be a one month project.

My aim is still not to encourage people to leave their day job right away and jump to the freezing financial uncertainty, like I ended up doing without a security net or sponsors. No, we all don’t want to or need to do the same things. But I have to say finances will be found when they are needed when you're willing to do the things you have a calling for. Do the easiest and smallest changes – take a course and test drive the ideas. See how it feels and be willing to be open and curious. One step at a time. 

So me, the busy business girl who I had become, started to blog about my journey after I took the first step towards what was truly calling me, and signed up for a yoga teacher training in Nicaragua. All that encouraging support from the family and friends "you have to do what makes you happy" and how everything was organized so smoothly gave me confidence I could lead my life to right direction and my other foot was already out from the office door. I kept affirming: take one step at a time and the next steps will be exposed to you.

When you're driving, you can't you really see what is behind the curve, but you know the road is continuing and it will take you to your destination, so you keep driving.

I wanted to share my journey on the blog and encourage the other people to see it would be possible to do the wanted changes in their life and create the life they truly want live — there were so many overachievers like me struggling with their stressful, unbalanced and unsatisfied lives. I didn’t really want to expose my personal life but the pressure, the beep and the calling was strongly demanding me to write. It is the roar of creativity.

So I wrote almost ten blogs in two weeks time before I left to my training. After I published my first blog and shared it on my Facebook I ran out from the house. I was shaking when I sneaked back to see what people would say and afraid they would they persecute me and think that I’ve gone crazy. But they didn’t. Or none said it out loud to me. One step at a time my confidence as a writer grew.

But the big story, the idea of that book, took a big step ahead sooner than I thought. After two years when I started writing and creating my own path, I wrote the first draft of that book in Bali in Mastin Kipp’s Writers Mastermind retreat and amazing coaches and fellow writers. I had followed his inspirational work for some time and learnt a lot through him. When I saw his post about the retreat I just instinctually knew I had to get there, no matter what. Again in the miraculous ways and again I managed to get everything organized. But not without facing any challenges or fears along the year I waited for that trip.

Remember and feel the original intuition, it will take you somewhere great. I had to step back to that intuitive feeling many times during the year when the suspicious ego wanted to play small and take the control. I have to say, money is not an issue when you are willing to follow your calling. So again I had got everything organized and I traveled to Bali for a month. I had amazing time finalizing my transformation, which was one of the reasons I did the trip. And basically wrote my life to a better one and got the first version of my story done. It is still a work in progress.

Release everything you need to release. Receive everything you need to receive. Be patient.

Last weekend I participated on the Hay House Writer’s workshop in New York and I found my original spark of creativity and to work with my projects. I met amazing people, I need my kind of people and supporting peer group - writing and being self-employed can get lonely. 

I noticed how I had become overwhelmed by all the work I really want to do and create. I had almost lost the motivation as I tried to do and rush too many things at the same time without proper planning, routines and consistency and my goals felt like unreachable chaos — I was pushing on a string. I heard myself priesting to my coaching clients about the patience and how things will happen on time. I stopped to listen my own words and took the advice too. 

I'm still looking for my niche. I'm close but finding it requires releasing of some old habits and beliefs, which then creates space for the new. It needs work, eagerness and courage to test some of the new ideas. Without a doubt there will be many lessons to learn and challenges to tackle that will lift me on the next level.  

I have told to quite for a few people about my dream that Hay House would publish my story. Last weekend I realized I don’t need to worry about the publishing now. I will get my stories out in a way or another. Then when the time is right. There are possibilities, multiple options to publish in this digital world. I understood all I want is to do the work and concentrate to put my message on the paper - then I’ll see where it leads. Lightly, one step at a time.

With love, Jenni

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How to do a mental reset in the middle of the busy day

Some days can feel like an emotional roller coaster taking you on a ride from shiny happy moments to anxious, negative thoughts. Busy schedules and hectic lifestyle can lead to draining and stressful experiences - we all know that!

Have you ever noticed how your mood may change based on others? It can happen like this:

Scenario 1: Your colleague comes back from a meeting and shares some good news: “It was such a great review, I’m so relieved!” or “These coworkers/company/everything just sucks!”.

Or like this:

Scenario 2: You meet with clients or friends and afterwards you feel like a wet wipe. You don’t know what hit you but suddenly your good mood is gone. You feel tired and grey. “Today was not my day! Maybe tomorrow will be better.” 

Either way, we share our emotions all the time with others - what's your share? Day by day you can repeat this pattern and let the mood swing without control… But we don't like or want that, right? 

Luckily you can reclaim your own mental balance and peace with a few simple steps - you always have a choice.

Being mindful of your experiences allows for choice. If you keep the door open to your personal mood space you’ll be receptive of others’ emotional residue. You may not have control of all your daily experiences but you CAN CHOOSE HOW YOU REACT to them. 

The best remedy is to LEARN HOW TO HANDLE the grumpy moment when it hits. This can be done when you’re MINDFULLY present at that moment.

Conscious awareness = you recognize your mental state but you don’t let your emotions take the lead.

GROWING YOUR AWARENESS: A QUICK-FIX MINDFULNESS EXERCISE DURING THE DAY (it's never too late)

1) GIVE yourself FIVE MINUTES (set the timer so you can relax). By your desk, meeting room, public transportation, at a subway stop.

2) BRING your attention to your breathing: Notice your chest moving up and down - focus on it.

3) CALM your gaze or close your eyes if you can - the less sensory distractions the better.

4) INHALE a big long breath in through the nose-filling your lungs to capacity. EXHALE out through the mouth to let go of tensions. Relax into the pose. REPEAT 3x.

5) THEN follow your natural breathing rhythm for COUPLE OF minutes. > Scan your body with the breath. >All your emotions and sensations are alright. > Do not judge yourself. >Be interested in what you find from within. >It’s all OKAY! >Let the thoughts pass when they arise.

As you repeat this exercise daily you may find things changing. You will notice more laughter, joy and ease of being.

KEEP GOING and exercise. Your awareness will slowly grow. 

"When you consciously listen to your inner quietness you’ll first face the foggy nothingness. Eventually, the invisible curtains will slowly open and your patience will take you to quietness (and answers)."

Can it be this simple?! The conscious breathing synchronizes the body and mind to the present moment: your power source. It reduces stress and anxiety while helping improve focus, memory, productivity and overall health. It adds compassion, understanding and ability to FEEL THE LOVE with yourself and others.

OBSERVE. When you live in the moment you awaken yourself to life. When you make daily choices consciously from that space you are CREATING the life you want and RECOGNIZING it. Suddenly you will experience what some just call MAGIC.

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Feel free to share you own comments or tricks how you switch back to balance in the middle of hectic day.

Love, Jenni

How to cool down when the heat is on (sweat the bitch out)

Some itchy bitchy feelings suddenly caught me. I felt like I wanted to have a little battle and argument with someone. Even though I noticed the quick thought of wisdom in my mind saying:

"You should rather take some time alone to get the insight what is going on, than forcing yourself to socialize and follow your too-full schedule."

But I had made the plans and I don't like to cancel and disappoint others, so I almost flew down the stairs on Saturday morning. (I'm working on my habit to listening and serving myself more carefully)

But this time, I didn’t listen to my won guidance, and I finally, and successfully, ended up in an argument. 

Did it feel good? 

Of course not: I don’t like to push my frustration to other people's neck. It's not their fault if my mind wants to be bossy and in control when I have overwhelmed myself with the busyness and forgot the self-care.

No one is perfect: this small failure was not a failure as it woke me up to see the heat is on: 

Do you ever feel so indecisive that you don’t have any idea what you need? Is it difficult to prioritize and instead of making decisions what you want, you just dwell in frustration? 

Maybe you over-think and analyze. Squirming with discomfort and having that small self-blaming and judging voice in the head is not helping at all.

Even though nothing’s really wrong there’s a big "Nah" in the back of the head. You just want to say “I don’t know,” because you don’t know but you have to make decisions.

Or you’re saying yes without thinking and get yourself even more tired and you feel bad as you're bad company.

This happens to me when the inner heat is on and I’ve slowly slipped from the happy track. Then I need to get back to sync with myself and often it requires self-care.

No need to emphasize we’re living in a dynamic world: the energy is heated up out there. Driver’s horn and people push each other in a hurry and no one wants to be pushed. Heat causes general anxiousness and sweating in the crowd make our head boil. 

When the weather is melting hot the pace must be slowed down.We need calmness and grounding to cool the down the over-heat in our bodies - mental blocks are causing physical blocks and the other way round. 

Still, we cannot blame the external conditions: work stress, heat, and people - blaming others has never solved any issues.

It is our responsibility to take care of the physical, emotional and spiritual wellbeing.

It keeps us away from the confronting situations. And we don’t react so easily with the other people crankiness either. Because we don't know what the others (colleagues, friends, even family members) have on their plate - it's better to be kind.

How to cool down when you feel over-heated and unconnected:

Stop to listen to yourself. What does your body need now? How do you feel and what feels right for you? Follow your inner guidance and make it happen. You will gain a lot more energy by taking action and getting out there than just slouching on the couch.

1. Sweat it out. Run, walk, jump, do yoga, hit the ball with the racket or ride a bike — move your body even for a short time! Just do it.

2. Lose yourself to dance (I love that Daft Punk's song) Play your ultimate summer song you really (or secretly) dig and let your hips talk! The bigger and crazier moves, the better; no one can see you. This lifts your energy levels high-up in five minutes!

3. Take a walk in the park and sit on the grass. Observe and listen what’s happening around you, the birds, wind, clouds and sun. Breathe in the green energy, enjoy the healing power of nature. This is a slow relaxing and mindfulness exercise.

4. Calm yourself before bedtime. Rinse the feet with warm water. Lift your legs up towards the wall for 15 minutes. Squirm your butt close to the wall, keep the spine long and open arms to the sides. Breathe in and out. This is calming practice that swipe away the inner dust.

I bet it feels good, and it was fun — you gained back your energy and are back in sync with yourself.

By the way, even though you have a bad day, it doesn't matter you have a bad life.

Love, Jenni

Human encounters

Old woman struggles the heavy cafe door open. She somewhat has to drag her legs towards nearest high communal table in the front of the door. It is easier for her hip to sit on the high chairs. She is tall and skinny, almost see-through. Her long grey hair has a loose bun on top of her head. She’s fragile and sensitive but beautiful.

She is wearing loose pants, a knit and a vest. All earthy colors, like herself. She seems to be very down-to-earth. It’s easy to see she’s not that well anymore. Her body has given up for time. Her presence is glowing dim light. She is ready.

She leaves all her bags on the table and continues her way to the register to make her tea order.

Tall heavy-looking man in his forty-something walks briskly into the cafe. His neck-length curls are coming forth under the red cap, which care-freely sits on his head . He’s wearing green shorts with big side pockets full of stuff and blue-purple printed hoodie with the patterns made of shiny golden sequins. He is wearing black sneakers with the springs under the heels. He looks busy. Restless and active but easy-going guy. Looks like he is ready to jam with the indie rock they play loudly in the cafe.

He quickly sits by the high communal table. Just one chair away from the old woman’s bags. He starts pulling out his laptop and books on the table. 

Old woman is waving at him from the register and making some noise to get his attention. Man stops and lifts his head. He stares at her and tries to understand what’s going on. She’s then pointing and waving her hand towards the wall.

To make it clear, she’s then starting to shake her very long and skinny finger. At the same time she is staring the man over her reading classes hanging at the end of her nose. Very recognizable international body language is clear. 

Man sounds little astound when his asking “Oh you don’t want me here? You want me to move?”. The cafe is empty. “Yes, I need my space. At least three chairs, which is my arm-length. I have very long arms”, the old lady is saying and still waving her hand when she’s replying firmly with her thin voice.

“Oh you have reserved these seats? And the cafe is almost empty!”, the man sounds a little annoyed and surprised about the ban. He’s hesitating a little bit what he should be doing as it is unusual situation he’s sitting in someone’s territory in a public place.

“I used to be a teacher”, the lady continues from the tea register. “Children were all the time all over my personal space, so nowadays I need my space”, she is not trying to soften it down but requires her own space firmly without leaving any option for the man. She’s not arrogant, only firm. She knows exactly what she wants and needs.

“OK, I understand. Totally. No problem. It’s OK. Noooo problem”, he lengthening the no at the end letting everyone in the cafe to understand that he keeps the lady as a total cuckoo. “Is it alright if I will leave one chair in between us?”, he says nosily pulling his stuff near to the corner of the table.

“No, I need at least three”, she’s saying and showing the wide circle with her long arm.

Now he’s annoyed but trying to keep it in. Clearly he’s working on it. Respect the bloody elders, they can do whatever, he’s offended ego is swearing silently.

“Yeah, I got that. Sure”, the man says. “People have become so afraid of being close to each other. Socially limited. Whatever”, he is murmuring and rolling his eyes when he’s changing his seat.

The lady gets her tea and slowly drags her legs back to the table and her three seats. The man now sees she is already well-aged and older than she looked like from far. He softens. 

She doesn’t apologize of anything she has said but continues to keep the conversation up. “You have a very lively style”, she comments the man’s outfit after checking him out from toes to head. 

The man ponders a moment should he now get offended. But he’s respect to elders and good habits have won the ego. “Well, I used to wanna be a rock star. I didn’t become a rock star but I kept the look”, he says softly. The tension is gone. He’s eyes are friendly and he keeps it polite. Even though he doesn’t usually talk with grannies and he should be doing something else.

“I like that cap”, she admires his red cap. “Oh this was just 11 dollars on the beach in San Diego”, he replies pleasantly remembering the moment when he bought it.

The conversation starts flowing. They talk about Starbuck’s coffee, about the neighborhood and something general. They are warming up. Sensing each other intuitively if they would be finding the same tune.

Soon the lady starts telling her stories. The man is getting interested and he's leaning toward her but still keeping the arm distance. He seems fascinated about their conversation. The lady is clearly interested to hear what he has to say too. She seems to know exactly who he is.

“You know, you have to accept what you have. That’s the thing”, is the last wisdom I hear her saying when I close the cafe door.

Love, Jenni

Hello, welcome.

There must be a reason you stopped by, probably there’s something common we share...

Maybe you too want to live your life with less stress and feel more joy?  Maybe you want to be successful and build a life you really love and like - in your own personal way?

Or maybe you are just curious and exploring, which is always a good reason. 

When people ask me what I do for a living, I often tell them...

I help my clients become happier and get what they desire.

What it really means...

I help people make the changes they crave, find who they truly are and what they really want. I help them to remove the inner barriers: release those old blockages, which are often so unconscious, creating the patterns, habits, and thoughts that keep them stuck. My expertise is to help people heal their old wounds so that they can move forward and accomplish their visions - get the success they want and need.

And what I really, really want to say is…

Every day I meet people who sacrifice their own happiness and satisfy to live their life or do the work, they don’t truly like. Quite often they suffer from disorders like continuous stress, unhealthy habits, addictions, financial problems, achieving goals, weight, continuous illnesses, bad relationships, lack of energy… Physical or mental issues. Many people are just doing what they think they should do and can't make the changes they crave - no matter they have all kind of things, they don't know how to move forward and feel they are standing in the way of their own happiness. 

It’s hard to get there if you don’t know where you are going.

“When I finish this project, change the job or relationship, get the raise, or when the kids have grown up - then - I will start to live the life I want,” is what I often hear. Frankly,  then rarely comes automatically. Happy ends, big dreams, and life journeys require effort, focus, and positive expectations. It’s a lot easier to do changes when you are not forced to do it, going through a big life tragedy or having a serious illness. Please don’t satisfy less than you deserve! 

Life is short, and in the end, it is very simple: let’s not waste it.

Jenni

Why is this so important to me?

Because I have been there myself; I have lived unconsciously, suffered and finally I lost my tracks. I know all about that cacophony. 

Hi - I am Jenni. Glad is my real name and I laugh a lot - joy is the purest way to cultivate the art of presence.

I am a certified rapid transformation therapist, hypnotherapist, and a life coach. So I specialize in transformations, from inside out, which is the only way to do long lasting changes. I’m a writer working on two book projects. I'm a yoga teacher too. I like to call myself changemaker, as I am constantly on the move, love change and I help my clients to make those changes they can't do on their own.

I grew up in the forests of Eastern Finland, lived half of my life in Helsinki and became a globetrotter in the meanwhile. I’ve been traveling all around the world and now I'm living in New York City with my dear husband.

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I used to work for big international corporates being a busy business and IT woman. I managed global projects and created new kind of digital services for over 12 years. Even though I had got what I vaguely had desired, I slowly became unhappy. My work didn’t feel meaningful enough, I felt I am making money for the money and I wanted to make a difference in the world. The roar inside me got really loud and I craved for change; I was looking my true calling, peace, and balance. And love, in its real universal meaning.

I had to go through a lot, serious lessons about life and death until at my rock bottom I realized  I was responsible for my life and happiness. It was liberating for me to understand I could take healthy control of my path and that would be the key to my freedom. To make it happen, I needed to burn my boats. Read the story here.

I have since formalized my methods and created a practice to help others achieve their desires and balance effectively. 

I work with people who are willing to make changes, lead their life and are ready to do the work and move forward. If you feel you could do a lot more than you do now,  I can probably help you. To learn how I work check out Work with me or send me a message for more information. 

Thanks for stopping by!

With love,

Jenni