5 ways to get over the resistance and fears
Often we know exactly what we could do in order to get there, but something just keeps us stuck.
Often we don't even know what it is or WHY we are preventing us from moving forward and receiving what’s on the other side of it, so we just stay stuck.
And it can be so frustrating that you eventually start believing you can’t have or do what you really really desire.
The more we struggle against our inner voice and calling, more frustrated and stuck we feel...
Usually, we are the ones who are standing in the way of our own happiness and success.
And usually, it’s fear that is hiding behind of those aims, desires, strategies and plans that never happen because you are not able to take action.
There are all kinds of fears:
fear of happiness
fear of success
fear of failure
fear of unknown
fear of what other people think if you start doing what you really want
fear of commitment
fear of not being good enough
fear of receiving... what we actually want: success, happiness, abundance, money
fear of what’s happening on the other side of the fear, the unknown
What’s yours?
If you take action based on fear and think it’s not going to work out, it probably won’t!
There are 3 beliefs that are the root of these fears:
I can’t have what I want, it’s not available for me
I’m not good enough, loved, worthy or deserving to want, have, or do what I want
It feels unsafe as it’s new; unfamiliar
Most of these beliefs are buried in the unconscious and that’s why the brain wants to keep us “safe and protected” no matter what it’s so brilliant it figures out the way how to hold us back: procrastination, emotional eating, anxiety, avoidance, you feel you are never ready or have enough knowledge but continuously need more proof, certificates, self-work… I know, I know!
To change this we need to become aware of the reason behind the reason and learn the techniques how to face our fears, resistance and other related emotions and empower our brain to trust and believe better thoughts and feel good about our aims and goals.
These are so powerful beliefs and keep so many people unhappily stuck exactly where they are.
No matter they want to live and build the life and career of their dreams, in their own terms, they can’t help but let their fears prevent them to live to the fullest. Eventually, they just want to give up and satisfy less and stick with their limiting beliefs. I don't want that to happen to you!
watch the video below and learn how to do it.
grab your notebook:
1) Look within: WHAT IS IT THAT YOU WANT MOST RIGHT NOW?
Write down all max. five things that have been bugging you on your "should do/be/have" list. Write down the things that you have resisted most.
It can be about creating clients, finding a new job, asking for more money, starting blog, a website, writing an article, creating a course, developing yourself somehow, taking the first action step...
2) prioritize
Make a list and pick one. Don't start contemplating too much in between the options, you can do them all but you need to start one thing at the time. Make it easy, do one thing at time. What would help you move forward fastest?
3) FEEL IT: face the fear, the resistance
What are the thoughts and feelings related to this desire or goal? Write them down. Accept how you feel and approve it’s there: just witness it there.
Your brain and your body are sending you a message of what you need to become aware of.
Is this thought helpful: is it real and is it true?
How does this thought or fear help you or prevent you?
Can you change this thought to an empowering one and support yourself that way?
Has someone else someway done what you want to do? That gives your brain an indication it is possible. Yes?
4) TAKE ACTION
What is the first step to getting ahead with it? Baby steps, write your actions steps down. Schedule it in your calendar. Decide you are going to do it and it’s going to work for you no matter what. How would you feel when you have done it? Write it down.
Taking action from the place of trusting and believing it’s going to work for you will bring you the results you want.
Taking action by feeling your feelings behind the fear and resistance is the only way to get over yourself.
From that place you will create a personal breakthrough, as you feel more empowered and you have your energy aligned with success.
When you learn to do manage your thoughts and feelings so you CAN follow through, you will see how changes start happening. This is really about creating a momentum.
Your courage will grow and - and no matter the fears will never totally leave us (they are keeping us safe in the end) - we can learn how to use them as guidance and release those unconscious inner blocks that really are the only thing keeping us stuck and struggling.
Is this helpful? Let me know below!
Much Love, Jenni